Marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. We all know that. However, we also know that marriage doesn’t always survive as long as intended. Divorces are all too common, which is sad to think about, but something we all know is a reality in the 21st century. But what people don’t often think about is what makes all of these marriages fail in the long run. Because the truth is that there is a near surefire way to make any marriage successful, assuming the marriage was started with true intentions.
So often, marriages fall apart because life gets hectic and couples lose sight of what is important. No matter what daily struggles you each may be dealing with, either individually or as a couple, you need to remember that your foundation for getting through those struggles is each other. And when those struggles are seemingly stemming from your partner directly, even more so should you look to them to help you get through said struggles. This latter case is where people often go wrong. When you are fighting with your spouse without actively working towards a resolution to whatever the issue is, you and your spouse are effectively growing farther and farther apart due to the lack of effective communication.
And this gets us to the key ingredient that every marriage needs to not only get through any obstacle that may arise throughout the marriage, but to ultimately thrive and grow stronger with time. And it’s honestly a pretty simple ingredient to say the last. Couples must always be willing to work at the marriage and not give up. Even when things may seem bleak, and even if your spouse may be driving you crazy with their antics, the last thing you should be doing is to stop trying.
Keep in mind why you married them in the first place, and know that with a little bit of effort, your marriage can and will eventually return to how it once was when you were both happily in love with one another. It may not seem like you are making any progress after a few days of trying to reconnect with your spouse. Or even after a few weeks. But keep at it and rest assured that your effort in keeping the marriage healthy and happy will eventually pay off.
The other part not to forget about is the fact that a marriage is made up of two separate parties, and when it comes to giving your all every day to make the marriage work, that effort has to also come from both parties. No matter how hard you try to keep the marriage happy and healthy, if your partner is not putting in that same amount of effort, there is always the possibility that your marriage will fail in the long run. So instill this mindset of always putting effort into your marriage, not only for yourself but for your spouse as well, and your marriage will surely stand the test of time.